- Equation of Transition -

IF there are things bout some people that you don’t quite comprehend, I’d say it’s okay. What is not okay; when you don’t even bother to try to understand. Human is originally complicated, and each is made different from the other. So I guess what some people say is true:-

                                   NORMAL IS OVERRATED.

However, there exist individuals who THINK that they understand(when in truth, they don’t), and they FORGIVE. We continue to forget that to err is human, but to forgive is divine.

Newsflash :- Forgiveness is important, but even more important is understanding. The latter should come before the former.

Kirei-san, in order to have a working relationship, the door must swing both ways. In my humble opinion, it’s not quite right to emphasize on the needs of the other person before our needs. In order to be happy, you must first be happy with yourself. Love thyself before you love the other. It might sound selfish, but it works. In order to give, you must first know how to receive.

Instead of always excepting the lame excuses, understand why there needs to be an excuse on the first place. Understanding helps you to forgive. Don’t just forgive because you refuse to face the truth. Because you refuse to accept the facts. FACT:- Excuses are the one most tactful way to say ‘NO’.

Don’t be angry if there aren’t any excuses at all. It just means there’s no other excuse than a plain ‘NO’. Some people force themselves to do what is expected of them. They consider themselves to be a martyr (Are they really? It is a syndrom people are most prone to. It is a sickness we are yet to find a cure for). Some people do/don’t do what they want/won’t to do. So if you receive a ‘NO’, love enough to accept it as an answer - Life is short. If he/she didn’t do anything, it is because he/she refuses to. Nobody put a gun on his/her head. But aren’t all human being granted the power of free will? Do we have a right to be angry at his/her decision?

Sometimes, my answer is just NO. I have my own excuse, and if I don’t tell you, it just means that I don’t trust you enough to ‘understand’. It is as simple as that. I don’t waste my breath pacifying someone who obviously refuses to understand.

So maybe he is like me. Maybe all he need is just some space. Some trust. Some love. Some acceptance. MAYBE.

Don’t just forgive someone, like you have so much authority, like you owe him/her, like he/she should be forever indebted to you, like you have every right to dictate his/her life. You don’t. Nobody does. If you did that, and when history repeat itself - you will kick yourself hard in the behind because you let it slip. Then you will think how horrible life is. How unfair you’re being treated. REMEMBER: It did not repeat itself.The problem did NOT go away because it was never solved in the first place.

This may seem harsh to you, but I’m just frank and truth hurts. That’s the reality of it. If you really know me like you say you do, then you will forgive me because you understand that I’m only being honest. I can’t be tactful, I lack tack. I don’t hate you. I only hate one person in this world, and it’s not you.

Points to Ponder: HATE is not the opposite of love. INDIFFERENCE is.